“You’re beautiful… someone who is fierce and strong but also loving and capable of being loved. I see a dedicated friend. Someone wicked smart. A mom who loves her kids and who is doing her best to set an example about being strong and independent and who is doing absolutely everything to make sure her daughter gets one hell of an education (and CJ too when he gets there).“
My friend sent me those exact words a little while ago.
“I hear you, but I don’t hear you.”
It doesn’t even register in my brain. Compliments are hard, yo.
Part of the reason that I got my most recent tattoo is because I needed a reminder. Mulling over Proverbs 31, I keep trying to figure out what God is trying to tell me here, but more importantly I am trying to believe what He is trying to tell me.
It is often said that “seeing is believing.” What about hearing? Do you believe things as soon as you hear them?
For me, people telling me something is not enough to make it stick. It has to take some kind of revelation, some kind of breakthrough (if you will) for me to believe those things for my own self.
That’s like if someone tells you that they love you. Well, words are nice, but how do they show you? What is that one thing that makes you finally believe it?
In my mind, the same thing goes when it comes to self-worth. You have to show yourself that you are strong, that you are important, that you are smart, that you are a badass. YOU have to believe those things for your own self. It doesn’t matter how often other people say it or see it in you, if you don’t believe it for yourself.
And I’m not there yet.
As I walk through this journey, I’m bringing you all with me because I know that my words resonate with so many of you who have reached out to me. Like I said before, we all need a tribe, and so now I’ll tell you what everyone tells me-
You are doing it right.
You are strong.
You are fierce.
You are smart.
You are worthy.