SuperBaby by Dr. Jenn Berman {Review}

About this Book:
Description taken from Amazon.com

The first three years of life are the most important for nurturing a child’s full potential: that’s when they start forming attachments, developing a sense of self, and learning to trust. During this time, there are critical windows of opportunity that parents can take advantage of-if they know how. In a dozen succinct yet information-packed chapters, award-winning columnist and professional therapist Dr. Jenn Berman gives parents the knowledge they need. Her enlightening sidebars, bulleted lists, and concrete, easy-to-use strategies will help parents raise happy, healthy babies…who grow to be flourishing toddlers and successful adults.

My Thoughts:

I know I’m not the best parent. I know that. I could be on a list of parental screw-ups, but I know I’m not the worst parent. I try and really, that’s all I can do- try my best… times ten.

When I read the description for Dr. Jenn’s SuperBaby I thought “oh great, one more parenting book to make me feel horrible about myself as a mom and the choices that I make.”

The margins of this book are scribbled with text, the pages covered with tabs and many-a pages highlighted and dog-eared. Why? Because I did find a lot of useful information in Dr. Jenn’s book (and I think you will too): ways to get your child started on a second language, how to help your non-verbal child communicate with you and (hopefully) decrease the number of tantrums through sign language and advice on playing with your child.

I also had a lot of questions (and objections?) about Dr. Jenn’s advice. Many of my questions, of course, starting with “HOW”- how do I get this to work for me? It can’t be as easy as you lay it out in the book! I found myself frustrated at times as well, though, I am not sure if I was frustrated with the facts (based on psychological research) that Dr. Jenn presents readers with or just frustrated at myself for having missed the boat with my daughter.

Dr. Jenn was so kind as to grant me an interview with her where I was given the opportunity to truly delve into the claims of SuperBaby and get answers to more personal questions about me, my parenting and my daughter.

Would I recommend this book? Yes. It can be a bit overwhelming, as there is a lot of information. I also advise you not to take Dr. Jenn’s advice to heart and think she’s wagging her finger at you (that’s what I felt). Rather, she’s an expert and has helped many parents, like us, who have felt “that’s it, my kid is ruined, there’s no turning back.” She wants to give you the tools that you need to get your child off on the right foot and to help avoid common childhood issues like: not wanting to sleep or the ever-so-awesome toddler tantrums.

You do not have to read this book cover-to-cover. Instead, Dr. Jenn suggests that you find the chapters that you feel would be most appealing/helpful to you and start there. The other great thing about the book is that Dr. Jenn doesn’t just give you the facts and the psychological studies saying this is how it’s supposed to be. She gives you all the information, then she gives you suggestions on how to implement these things into your child’s life (providing diagrams when applicable and even offering sample schedules for parents looking to get their child on one).

I’ve told myself: a) Dr. Jenn is the expert, not me. She’s got the degrees and experience to prove it. b) Any book that is this thought provoking and can bring about both positive and negative feelings in you is a good book. I think we should constantly be questioning whether or not we are doing a good job as parents and if there is anything that we can do better for the benefit of our children. So, kudos to Dr. Jenn for a great book and thanks to her also, for helping me to re-asses my parenting “skills” (I use that word loosely).

Buy It!

SuperBaby is on shelves and available for purchase. You can snatch it up at your local store or from Amazon.com. It’s currently priced at $16.47.

About Dr. Jenn Berman:
Taken from Dr. Jenn’s site


Dr. Jenn Berman is a Marriage, Family and Child Therapist in private practice in Los Angeles. She has appeared as a psychological expert on hundreds of television shows including The Oprah Winfrey Show and The Tyra Banks Show and is a regular on The Today Show and The Early Show,. She currently hosts a call-in advice show on Sirius/XM’s Cosmo Radio. She is the author of the Los Angeles Times best selling book The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy Confident Kids which won the Mom’s Choice Award gold medal in parenting. She is also the author of SuperBaby: 12 Ways to Give Your Child a Head Start in the First 3 Years and the co-author of the children’s book Rockin’ Babies. Her “Dr. Jenn” parenting column is printed in Los Angeles Family Magazine and five other magazines every month and won the prestigious Parenting Publications of America award in parenting and child development. She is also on the Board of Advisors for Parents Magazine. Dr. Jenn has an eco-friendly clothing line for adults and children called Retail Therapy. All the tees have positive “feel good” messages and are made of organic and recycled materials. Dr. Jenn lives in Los Angeles with her husband and twin daughters.

Everybody’s Pregnant!

…or just recently had a baby.

Or at least that’s how it seems.

Or is it always like that?

It’s probably always like that. I remember thinking before I had Baby C that everyone was pregnant.

We… are not pregnant.

In fact, we just lost a baby.

Yes world, I recently had a miscarriage or a “Missed AB” as they wrote on my hospital papers. “Typically, no symptoms exist besides amenorrhea, and the patient finds out that the pregnancy stopped developing earlier when a fetal heartbeat is not observed or heard at the appropriate time. An ultrasound usually confirms the diagnosis. No vaginal bleeding, abdominal pain, passage of tissue, or cervical changes are present.

Once upon a time I was pregnant. I went in for my first OB appointment and they said the heart rate was low, like 60 bpm, but that I was only about 6 weeks, so they’d keep an eye on it. So, the next week we went in for another ultrasound- per my doctor’s request- and the heart rate was like 102 bpm, but “still kinda low.”

In the meantime, I was having cramping like it was my j-o-b and I called my Dr. to which they said “drink more water, you’re probably just dehydrated.” (Thanks, Doc)

Two weeks later, I go in for another ultrasound. I was supposed to be almost 10 weeks, but the Dr. said a) he couldn’t find a heartbeat and b) I was measuring at 6 weeks, 2 days. (What?) So he wanted me to get my hCG levels checked that Friday, then again on Monday.

You ever just know something is wrong? Especially with your own body?

I knew something was wrong and I knew that the news wouldn’t be good when I went back on Wednesday.

My Dr. confirmed that my hCG levels were, in fact dropping and when we did an ultrasound he said: “yea… there’s no baby. So it was in fact, a miscarriage.”

Really you dumb f*k? Could you be any more stoic? Asshole.

“Soo do you want to wait for your body to miscarry naturally? Cause you haven’t bled yet.”

No I want to have a D&C, thank you. Schedule it.

Well that’s probably best since we don’t know how long you’ve had this fetus inside of you like this.”

He’s an asshole. And everyone at his office is too. I hate how long they make you wait for shit. I hate how insensitive they are. It’s like and you’re in the business of women and children? How?

I don’t really know how I’m supposed to be grieving about this. Since I kind of knew something was wrong with the pregnancy, maybe I didn’t allow myself to get mentally attached? There were a few tears at the Dr.’s office and a nice cry when I woke up from surgery- though I’m not sure if it was because of the pain that I was in or from the loss.

For the most part, though, I’ve just been very stoic myself. I don’t know what to think or feel besides life has thrown me yet another curve ball. I don’t lay around feeling sorry for myself, I just think of this situation as it is what it is. I also told myself I have a daughter who is here now that needs me now and doesn’t have time for Mommy to go to that weird dark place that she can go into where she doesn’t know if she’s comin’ or goin’. It wouldn’t be fair to Pea for me to get myself into a funk… Nah. I can’t go there.

What good would it do me anyway?

– Can’t find a job.
– Lost our baby.
– Money is tight. (Isn’t it for all of us?)
– No friends. (This desert life sucks)
– Oh, and our daughter keeps getting sick. (Remember yesterday’s post? Well, Pea has pneumonia)
– Oh… and? my face looks like a nervous high school girls the night before prom. What the EFF I haven’t had this many zits since 6th grade. OMFG

I just feel very numb… if that makes sense. Closed off. Annoyed with life. And our shitty ass situation. And feeling like since there’s nothing presently that can be done about it, I live- one day at-a-time. What the heck else can I do?

Fuck you very much life. Seriously.